Are you searching for something?
Maybe a relationship partner, a passion or purpose, a business idea, a job?
Whenever someone tells me they are trying to ‘find’ something, I immediately see how and why the thing they want is evading them.
Trying to ‘find’ something is a very passive approach. It amounts to looking around, watching and maybe even listening too. You may in fact be all ears and all eyes in your ‘search’, but if so, you are still leaving out half of what you can do.
Listening and watching is all about input. If you are ‘searching’, then you’re probably forgetting the output.
By output, I mean the things you can do to impact and shake up the world. Your output oriented actions can change the environment you are looking and listening in.
People do this mildly in their search, but mostly they are just poking their heads around corners and peeking inside cupboards.
Instead of ‘searching’, ‘seeking’ or ‘finding’, I prefer the idea of ‘creating’ stuff in life.
When playing hide-and-go-seek with my nephew, I will NOT be a ‘creator’. I will be a ‘seeker’, because it takes me much longer to find him and this is fun for him. I’ll just walk around, allowing my eyes to glance in different directions.
When playing hide-and-go-seek with a particular person or opportunity, I WILL be a ‘creator’. I’ll talk often about what I am looking for. I’ll tell everyone. I ask questions. I’ll create things that might attract that person or opportunity. I’ll shake up the world like I’m shaking an apple tree and let that person or opportunity fall out and hit me on the head.
Creating is much more active than seeking.
COACHING QUESTIONS:
- What is it that you are currently trying to find?
- What could you do differently if you transcended ‘seeking’ and began CREATING instead?
