You know how when you express love for someone, sometimes it is so intense that you tear up.
You say “I love you, man” and your eyes start watering like a baby.
I noticed that sometimes when coaching I have the thought to say something to the person in front of me but then I can feel that if I do it’s going to bring the tears.
Part of me wants to hold back. I used to listen to that part. I used to stop myself from expressing the kind of love for people that has me feel that wave of intense emotion.
I’ve stopped stopping myself through. I think that wave of emotion is actually some sort of existential realisation of our forgotten inherent union. It’s the same feeling as finding your home after being lost, or finding out your friend is going to live. It’s a very happy feeling.
I’ve actually chosen to believe that if I stop myself from sharing the thoughts that have me feeling like that, then I am essentially lying.
I am lying by holding back what’s most true for me – something inspired that is trying to unfold through me.
So this is my new mantra: “If I’m not crying, I’m lying.”
I say it so boldly, not because I want to always be crying, but because as a coach and a leader I endeavour to be creating that kind of depth in all of my interactions with people.
Doing so creates the most powerful connection in the world – the one we have forgotten and which already exists.
Where are you holding back tears?
Let those words roll.